Nefarious James “Second Amendment”
I believe the past month has been hard on a lot of people. It’s not a normal occurrence that the bikers out there are told to stay home and put up their motorcycles in hopes of fending off an unseen attacker. Normally when we are attacked, we respond back with the closest version of what’s described under our second amendment and be done with the issue. This however is a whole new type of deviant. I don’t want this article to be about this virus. I’ve decided to make it about something a lot of people won’t talk about. With this quarantine crap going on we are faced with a whole new menace. Those we love and ourselves. Whoever first wrote ‘we can be our own worst enemy’ was not kidding. Even worse, we as a society are prone to massive amounts of stupidity. I’m afraid to say, but I believe it’s in some people’s DNA. I’m talking about self destructive behavior. I’m no doctor or shrink but I’ve fucked up a relationship or two. I screwed up a 24 year marriage with self destructive and negative behavior. What’s my excuse for all of this? Not a single thing I can come up with that would justify what I had done. But, I learned immensely from it. With those lessons I’ve learned come these little gems of advice. So listen up before it costs you what it cost me. First off I am not an advocate of striking a woman. No matter how much anger I’ve had, I’ve never laid a hand on a woman. Men, well that may be a different story. I understand that some people are fine with putting their hands on a female but I’ll tell ya, it’s a shitty idea and a worse thing to do.
Now we are stuck in close quarters with our demons, self destructive tendencies, stress about bills, no money coming in and the constant voice in your head screaming how are we going to make it? Then there is the burden of trying to hold it all together. This whole scenario really sucks. Remember your significant other is feeling the same thing. Fighting won’t fix it. My ex wife would say “you can be mad that it’s broken or happy that it’s broken, either way it’s broken”. I’m sure not happy it’s broken, but I get the gist of it. Smart woman, but I would have the tendency to be mad first anyway. Human nature I guess. But good news is you can change that. I came across a quote from a guy named Bob Marley. As I happen to be writing this on 4-20-2020. I felt it was fitting to share. Read it carefully and thoroughly more than once if need be. It’s some of the deepest wisdom I’ve read in a very long time that hits the nail on the head and it applies to both men and women. It reads:
“You may not be her first, her last or her only. She loved before she may love again. But if she loves you now, what else matters?
She’s not perfect – you aren’t either,
And the two of you may never be perfect together but if she can make you laugh, cause you to think twice, admit to being human and making mistakes, hold onto her and give her the most you can.
She may not be thinking of you every second of the day, but she will give you a part of her that she knows you can break – her heart. So don’t hurt her. Don’t change her. Don’t analyze her and don’t expect more than she can give.
Smile when she makes you happy, let her know when she makes you mad, and miss her when she’s not there.
Love with your whole being when you receive love. Because there are no perfect girls, but there will always be a girl who is perfect for you.”
Spot on. You just got that one for free. Probably one of the best quotes on a relationship I have ever read. I hope you read that quote again and really get the meaning of it. If you get it and its genuine meaning, you would be hugging your girl or guy right now. It’s powerful stuff. I believe you all get what I’m driving at. Be the change you want to see around you and make the difference in peoples’ lives that only your life experience can bring. It’s as easy as that. Battles and wars are not fought alone. Remember that. See you out there.